I have a ringside seat to the success and failures of others. As an executive coach, I share in the triumphs and challenges of my clients. One of things I’m really good at is spotting patterns. There are distinct differences between the ways successful happy people approach life versus those who continually struggle.
The following is one thing that happy successful people do differently. Look for two more posts on the subject
1. They focus on happy jealousy
When a colleague gets promoted or a friend gets a new home, less successful people are jealous because they wish the prize had gone to them instead. Successful people also feel jealous, but it’s a different kind of jealousy. Instead of negative envy, they feel what I call happy jealously. They’re happy for the other person, and they wish it had also happened to them too. The nuance is important.
Less successful, less happy people tend to have a scarcity mentality. They believe there aren’t enough raises and new cars to go around. When someone else gets a prize, it means less for them. When a friend wins a trip to Europe, they’re more likely to get dejected, thinking, well what about me? Successful people respond differently. They’re jealous but instead of feeling left out, they ask themselves, “How can I make that happen for me? Rather than sitting on the side complaining, happy jealously motivates the successful happy people to take action.
Lisa Earle McLeod is a sales leadership consultant, and author of Selling with Noble Purpose. Companies like Apple, Kimberly-Clark and Pfizer hire her to help them create passionate, purpose-driven sales forces. She’s the author of several books including Selling with Noble Purpose: How to Drive Revenue and Do Work That Makes You Proud, a Wiley publication. She has appeared on The Today Show, and has been featured in Forbes, Fortune and The Wall Street Journal. She provides executive coaching sessions, strategy workshops, and keynote speeches. Visit www.mcleodandmore.com